Sunday, January 18, 2009

Really, really good friends

I know that people in the milspouse blogsphere talk a lot about how civilians don't get it. And sometimes, they just don't, like LAW's coworkers. I've blogged before about friends who don't understand the basics of military life and family members who are truly oblivious.

But there are some friends who, while they may not "get" it, are always willing to offer a listening ear. I have one friend, in particular, who is fantastic about this. She truly wants to understand what is going on in my life (and Einstein's). She asks intelligent questions, remembers acronyms (!!!!), and is always willing to lend a sympathetic ear.

I don't know what I would do without her.

Although she lives 1,000+ miles away right now, I've been relying on her a lot lately. I love my military friends, but it can be difficult to support each other when we are all dealing with the same frustrations. I feel petty complaining about my own apprehension over not knowing what Einstein will fly in the future and when and where we are moving next when all of my friends here are in the same boat.

I just spent 5 minutes trying to think of a way of expressing that thought without using the word "boat", since it sounds so Navy... ;)

So my far-away friend has been a godsend lately. I hope she knows how much I appreciate her sympathetic ear and understanding emails. They mean the world to me!

I hate waiting to find out what is coming next. It is driving me CRAZY. I'm a planner, and not being able to plan out the rest of this year is driving me up the wall. I guess I'd better get used to it, though, huh?


loquita said...

It's awesome you have a friend like that, I can totally see how talking to someone completely outside your situation would be a lot better for you.

OMG, the waiting and not planning ahead thing - if I figure that one out I will let you know... I feel the same way. I have good days and bad days over it, but I guess you're right that we'll just have to learn to live with it. :)

The Mrs. said...

I have a friend like that. During my first deployment after we were married she called one night, I was in the shower so I didnt answer. She called back, still in the shower, she called again, and again I finally got out and got it and she was worried that I had fallen and was laying there all alone. She called every night that deployment to check on me. And six years later, still does.

hang on to that friend!

good luck with the planning. HA! you will keep trying despite the knowledge that you cant.